Archive | December, 2016

2016 in review

31 Dec

Here we stop almost at the end of the year. It’s become my own tradition to review things that’ve done for the whole year. Life is such dynamic and ironic. Sadness and happiness fill the life continuously. Many tragic things happened too globally, and it sure affect myself directly and indirectly. The fact that things just change simultaneously and drastically. It used to be warm but then turn to be freeze.

Hoaxes and hatreds run their victory lap, logical fallacy spread as the hate gone wild also. Yet people slay each other, well not only by the actual physical war, some just can easily to use their tongue and fingers.

World’s nowadays is different, harsh and mean.

Bombing, terrorism, war, Ahok’s blasphemy, Juventus had their numerous consecutive champion, Warriors beaten by Cavs in the final, Rossi failed to get his title again, Trump won the election, etc. Such a lost to know many great figures died in 2016. But one person that became a note, our young colleague drh. Esthi,  who died in an accident while she worked with elephant in a zoo.

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Some other good things cover it up, let just say like promotion, journal’s contribution, and more law enforcement for conservation.

But then those were easily wipe away when my daughter born. That’s the bottom line :p

January

Had to separate-lived with my wife for couple days in a week. She went to work part timely in a different city. This was sucks. In the other hand I did my first time-first author contribution in a journal. Hope for more things like this

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February

Had some change in working place. The LDR stuff, though only just couple days in a week, made me weak. For sure

March

At the end of the month, we decided to gather in one city as a normal couple. Though she already completed her training period, but it’s just made her too exhaust. The travel took almost half of the day. We noticed that she had bleeding twice after the travel to work. Not include how the tenses of her working place, so she resigned and stay at home. This was one of the best decision that we made actually.

April

We concerned about my wife’s reproduction status, since she got bleed many times during works. So we tried to check it to an obgyne. Amazingly we got a good news, my wife was pregnant. Things were getting tenser. Since her earlier stage of pregnancy bit hard. She lost appetite, weak, easily stressed out. I was trying the best for her and our baby, even my working stuff was another issue to fix. But I noticed that that this month was my 6th year of career. It’s not easy at all, praise the Lord for this great moment.

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May

The first long-ranged travel was done to Surabaya. We made a special trip to attend our best friend’s wedding. Also spreading some news to family about our future family’s member. Both of us also visited the University for some scientific gigs. My wife gave a talk about her latest experience in avian medicine and breeding, I talked about my experience in macaque’s conservation.

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June

Ramadhan came. First Ramadhan for us, in fact the first Ramadhan with our future baby. My wife didn’t do the fasting. So it’s my first time experience to pay the fidyah also. Some hard times happened when she got weak during our monthly shopping moment in the hot day. But in the other time, she was so much fit to shop in a shopping festival in Jakarta. LOL.

July

Got an opportunity to attend the OVAG for a week and this time is Kinabalu. Been like 3 years of absent for going abroad, and it’s bit awkward. Luckily the workshop was fun, the ambience was cool, and people were very warm and friendly.

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August

Finallly 30…Had my first ever experience to remove collar of our monitored slow loris. It means that the individual officially wild again. At the end of August, we finally moved to a new house, straight down in Bogor. This was a big step that we made so far. Things became better and easier, especially for my wife. Though I had to drive one hour by motorbike to my working place.

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September

Had another opportunity to remove another collar of our slow loris. But this one was special since the individual had a baby. So much relieving to see our mission succeed. This also reminds me of my wife with her pregnancy. Got invitation to give talk about profession in highscope school in Jakarta, yes I was very nervous to talk in front of the kids :p ..At the end of the month, both of us took our nerve to run a trip for coupe day by motorbike riding to Tangerang, to gather with our colleagues in a conference called KIVNAS.

October

In the beginning of October, I joined the team for a workshop in National Park in Lampung, I did give a talk about emergency care and handling of slow loris. Assisted the team for a big confiscation after 2 big wildlife trafficker in West Java caught in hand. 34 slow lorises seized  in a day.

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November

We just had our first wedding’s anniversary. Then at 16-11-16, she was born, Gemifaly Bonirezar Wanakalani was her name. The whole sadness and upsets would disappear by the presence of this cute baby girl. A week after, I still could spend a day for a primate seminar and gave a presentation about slow loris.

December

Gemi already a month’s old and healthy. She also already had her first ever shave and Mangupa.

So I’d rather to say that 2016 was a great year, I’m happy for sure.

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Though so much bad things happened and made you down. I’m happy no matter some friends and colleagues became weird and hate me just because different perspective. Being different is normal, those who can’t stand with it surely become fragile and vulnerable. Yep they are fragile and vulnerable, soon would be lost for many things. Let’s just say some people tend easily to spread hatred, mixed with stubbornly logical fallacy and bullying attitude. Yet they can’t even crosscheck it first and brutally shares hoaxes, with hate and proud. Most of them are educated people with respected profession. It’s very naïve to say this is just about religion or race, the fact that it’s pure politically interest. And someone used your faith for their own greed. Some of them didn’t realize that, some of them apply it in their move. And here some people like me, who actually not too different but had worse treat than those who perfectly different. That’s 2016 bullshit, and it’s gone too far. The world gone too far too.

Well I didn’t care, well at least I tried to.

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Since there’s a little angel who we don’t want to grow with this sick world. She’s our hope in the future for better world, better nature and humanity.

The world harsh and mean, but she has to ready to embrace it.

Yet I was hoping for the better condition in 2017. Though you’ll meet the same bad repetition happens every year, could be worse sometime. But every year I’m trying to be a realistic positive reason, even though I’m still swearing a lot. More targets set, more productive, try to park those unimportant ego and drama with those stupid people (if you want stuck in stupidity, then leave it. But if you want to embrace the stupidity, the gate always open wide).

Good bye 2016, thanks for guided me with all those enlightens and lessons. And I will very glad to welcome 2017 as the Pandora box may flood you with so many enrichment like hard work, knowledge, joyful and dream.

Happy new-year folks!

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*ps we are not celebrating the new year’s eve, we just preparing our baby’s night shift..ssh…be quiet, you don’t wanna messed up with that lil’s super saiyan :p

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Gemifaly Bonirezar Wanakalani

5 Dec

​Hi earth.. This is me reporting late, again. Away from the earth’s noise anthem for all tragedies that happen in humanity, all life. At this moment, I won’t share negative things, whether it’s right or wrong. Things exploded in November, but not with me and my wife. We succeed to survive for our first anniversary at 8 November, yet we would had another surprise of happiness soon. And who would notice it would happen just a week after.

16 November 2016, I was in the morning shift of work. It was almost 4 pm, thick cloud surrounded Mt. Salak’s area, but it wasn’t raining yet. Bit lazy to left, work stuff everywhere. But then I thought it will be nice to come home earlier, especially safe from the rain during the journey. So I packed things in hurry and grabbed my motorbike straight to my house. Took almost an hour, but the road were easy, no traffic at all, no rain also. I enjoyed my whole journey by singing song.
Reached home without any problem, my wife said that her parents has just left couple minute ago. Then we cooked for dinner. Around 5 pm, while I cooked, my wife had her discharge coming out. And it’s continue with more discharge an hour later, without any single contraction or stomach pain. Well, her pregnancy already on 37th week plus. 2 days ago during our check-up session with the ob-gyn, the doctor said that we must aware for the pregnancy since 37 week is a mature pregnancy and ready to deliver baby at any time. But the problem was, my wife didn’t get any pain, so it was confusing though.  Whether it was just a fake contraction or really a birth sign. But in case if something bad happen, we planned to the hospital after dinner. Then she called her parent to come, to take us to the hospital. My parents in law seems bit confuse with our problem also. 

At 8 pm, we already entered to the hospital. Again we were confuse to decide which place we aim to. So we decided to ask to the information center about our condition. Then they told us to straight to the birth room. Nurses in charge checked my wife. Shockingly, they said it’s a real sign to deliver the baby. Her fetal membrane already ruptured and reached the opening 2…ok we were going to have a baby really soon!! So I started to fix all of the administration stuffs. On 9 pm, nurses suggested to start the induction. Half an hour later my wife started the contraction, nurses checked it and its halfway ready for the baby delivery. Almost 10.30, nurses said that my wife already completed the opening and could start to strain, to deliver the baby. Well it’s so fast. I thought it would be happen on the day after. Couple minutes after the doctor also came with his loud Coldplay’s playlist to help the birth process.

And here the process began. I could stay in the room, next to my wife, held her hand, wipe her tears and sweat. What my wife should do just strain, strain under the contraction rhythm, manage her breath also. Yet it should be painful but also she need to push the baby out. During our efforts, the nurses and doctor almost failed our concentration couple times by throwing some funny thoughts (but not in the right time) such as saying that the baby would born in a nice date: 16-11-16 …whatever…but there went the baby’s head bit popped out…it’s almost there…then the doctor hilariously remind me to take picture for that priceless moment…I almost laughed very hard 😀

Finally… 22.59 our baby girl was born…it’s relieving.. she looked health and cried…I had the chance to clip the placenta. I whispered the praying call to her ear..I didn’t know if the baby was listening or not since the Coldplay’s song was very loud.. LOL.. I felt things just happened so smooth and well, and fast.. praise the Lord, Alhamdulillah.. such a grateful day for us.

After measurement, I just found out that the weight and length were 2,55 kgs and 44 cms.. she looked tiny, tinier than our estimation by the USG (should be 3kg). We need to separate from the baby a while. Our baby went to baby room and we took a rest in patient room.

Anyway we gave the baby name:

Gemifaly Bonirezar Wanakalani

Gemi = thrift and careful (Javanese)

Faly = joyful (Malagasy)

Boni = Purbo and Yumni (her parent’s name of course)

Rezar = pray (Spanish)

Wana = jungle- forest (Javanese)

Kalani = heaven (Native America)

So the meaning of her name is a pray of her parents for a joyful, thrift and careful child who love jungle like heaven.

Earlier day in hospital, we could only spent couple hours with Gemi in our room, or maybe watched her from the baby room during the baby show. Her mom spent more time to give her milk and bath her. Our biggest concern was her blood type which is A. The problem was her mom’s blood type is O. So she had greater chance to get liver problem due the late activity of her internal organ a nd it can caused by the difference of blood type of her and her mom. The first clinical sign will be jaundice, then the daily bilirubin level’s growth > 4. We thought that Gemi was fine, but the doctor said she had slight jaundice especially when she compared with other babies in the room. When the bilirubin level were too high, she couldn’t leave hospital soon and need to be treated in special room and restricted from her parents. We plan to leave the hospital on the 3rd day, Gemi would have her blood test also and that would determine our decision. Quite broke our heart since the late blood sampling with late result showed her bilirubin level quite high which was 12,9. But she didn’t looked jaundice at all. We couldn’t talk to the doctor either.  

Luckily the doctor appeared and decided that Gemi could go home with us. He said that even Gemi’s bilirubin level was high, Gemi’s milk consumption was good and her mom’s milk production quite good also. So the doctor suggested to bring Gemi home!!! Yeaaay!!

Until now Gemi is fine and health, her bilirubin issue already stable, no jaundice at all and her weight is gaining also!! I spent 7 days of holiday to take care of her. She already met her grandparents too!Really fuun.. :p

I had another exercises like baby lifting, baby holding and baby carrying.. Ooh I can see my biceps grow again :p

I used to take care baby patients, thought I can survive of this. But it’s still a hard time to keep awake and aware when your baby cry for milk or got pee and poo.. Not to mention how my condition the day after, wake early in the morning, driving , work until late then drive back to home. Try to cover my wife. These whole parenting things are so much fun. 

Maybe things got complicated for our life now but we complexly happy since no one ready until they ready and there’s always a first time for everything.

I love the moment when I carry Gemi and sing a song to her. Well she’s already a Coldplay fans since our ob-gyn already played Coldplay during his check-up (while she was a fetus!!) and birth process.. But I remember the moment when I was riding motorbike to home on the day that she would born…I sing “Stolen” from Dashboard Confessional on the whole journey.. So here I am, singing the same song to her. She did stole my heart now, after her mom for sure :p

I love also to see her smile, smirk and laugh.. it’s relieving, wipe all my tiredness of work, wipe my concern to see those tragedies in life.. But I also note that this world would be so much tough and mean for her.

But Gemi is her parent’s hope for better world in the future.

LOVE

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